Award winning author and editor (Also, a cousin of mine.) Kelley Clink shares an interesting insight about the effects of suicide on those left behind and on the victim’s legacy. [emphasis mine]
Here’s the thing about suicide: it can seep backward and stain an entire life. For years after my brother’s suicide, I could only think about him in terms of his death. Any moment of joy or happiness was called into question. He’d suffered so deeply for so long–had any of the pleasure in life he’d expressed been real?
It took a very, very long time for that stain to fade. For me to allow my brother’s life to be about more than his death. He, like Mr. Williams, made people laugh. He comforted. He celebrated. He loved.
But, she does offer hope.
Some people may be angry. Some people may judge. I think most people will just feel sadness, and hopefully compassion. Eventually the stain will fade, and we will be left with his beautiful life.
Kelley’s memoir will be published next May.